“The difference between what we do and what we are capable of doing would suffice to solve most of the world’s problem.”
“If I had no sense of humor, I would long ago have committed suicide.”
Mahatma
Gandhi needs no long introduction. Everyone knows about the man who
lead the Indian people to independence from British rule in 1947.So let’s just move on to some of my favourite tips from Mahatma Gandhi.
1. Change yourself.
“You must be the change you want to see in the world.”
“As
human beings, our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake
the world – that is the myth of the atomic age – as in being able to
remake ourselves.”
If
you change yourself you will change your world. If you change how you
think then you will change how you feel and what actions you take. And
so the world around you will change. Not only because you are now
viewing your environment through new lenses of thoughts and emotions but
also because the change within can allow you to take action in ways you
wouldn’t have – or maybe even have thought about – while stuck in your
old thought patterns.
And the problem with changing your outer world without changing yourself is that you will still be you
when you reach that change you have strived for. You will still have
your flaws, anger, negativity, self-sabotaging tendencies etc. intact.
And
so in this new situation you will still not find what you hoped for
since your mind is still seeping with that negative stuff. And if you
get more without having some insight into and distance from your ego it
may grow more powerful. Since your ego loves to divide things, to find
enemies and to create separation it may start to try to create even more
problems and conflicts in your life and world.
2. You are in control.
“Nobody can hurt me without my permission.”
What
you feel and how you react to something is always up to you. There may
be a “normal” or a common way to react to different things. But that’s
mostly just all it is.
You
can choose your own thoughts, reactions and emotions to pretty much
everything. You don’t have to freak out, overreact of even react in a
negative way. Perhaps not every time or instantly. Sometimes a knee-jerk
reaction just goes off. Or an old thought habit kicks in.
And
as you realize that no-one outside of yourself can actually control how
you feel you can start to incorporate this thinking into your daily
life and develop it as a thought habit. A habit that you can grow
stronger and stronger over time. Doing this makes life a whole lot easier and more pleasurable.
3. Forgive and let it go.
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
“An eye for eye only ends up making the whole world blind.”
Fighting
evil with evil won’t help anyone. And as said in the previous tip, you
always choose how to react to something. When you can incorporate such a
thought habit more and more into your life then you can react in a way
that is more useful to you and others.
You
realize that forgiving and letting go of the past will do you and the
people in your world a great service. And spending your time in some
negative memory won’t help you after you have learned the lessons you
can learn from that experience. You’ll probably just cause yourself more
suffering and paralyze yourself from taking action in this present
moment.
If
you don’t forgive then you let the past and another person to control
how you feel. By forgiving you release yourself from those bonds. And
then you can focus totally on, for instance, the next point.
4. Without action you aren’t going anywhere.
“An ounce of practice is worth more than tons of preaching.”
Without
taking action very little will be done. However, taking action can be
hard and difficult. There can be much inner resistance.
And
so you may resort to preaching, as Gandhi says. Or reading and studying
endlessly. And feeling like you are moving forward. But getting little
or no practical results in real life.
So,
to really get where you want to go and to really understand yourself
and your world you need to practice. Books can mostly just bring you
knowledge. You have to take action and translate that knowledge into
results and understanding.
You can check out a few effective tips to overcome this problem in How to Take More Action: 9 Powerful Tips. Or you can move on to the next point for more on the best tip for taking more action that I have found so far.
5. Take care of this moment.
“I
do not want to foresee the future. I am concerned with taking care of
the present. God has given me no control over the moment following.”
The
best way that I have found to overcome the inner resistance that often
stops us from taking action is to stay in the present as much as
possible and to be accepting.
Why?
Well, when you are in the present moment you don’t worry about the next
moment that you can’t control anyway. And the resistance to action that
comes from you imagining negative future consequences – or reflecting
on past failures – of your actions loses its power. And so it becomes
easier to both take action and to keep your focus on this moment and
perform better.
Have a look at 8 Ways to Return to the Present Moment
for tips on how quickly step into the now. And remember that
reconnecting with and staying in the now is a mental habit – a sort of
muscle – that you grow. Over time it becomes more powerful and makes it
easier to slip into the present moment.
6. Everyone is human.
“I
claim to be a simple individual liable to err like any other fellow
mortal. I own, however, that I have humility enough to confess my errors
and to retrace my steps.”
“It
is unwise to be too sure of one’s own wisdom. It is healthy to be
reminded that the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err.”
When
you start to make myths out of people – even though they may have
produced extraordinary results – you run the risk of becoming
disconnected from them. You can start to feel like you could never
achieve similar things that they did because they are so very different.
So it’s important to keep in mind that everyone is just a human being
no matter who they are.
And
I think it’s important to remember that we are all human and prone to
make mistakes. Holding people to unreasonable standards will only create
more unnecessary conflicts in your world and negativity within you.
It’s
also important to remember this to avoid falling into the pretty
useless habit of beating yourself up over mistakes that you have made.
And instead be able to see with clarity where you went wrong and what
you can learn from your mistake. And then try again.
7. Persist.
“First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.”
Be
persistent. In time the opposition around you will fade and fall away.
And your inner resistance and self-sabotaging tendencies that want to
hold you back and keep you like you have always been will grow weaker.
Find
what you really like to do. Then you’ll find the inner motivation to
keep going, going and going. You can also find a lot of useful tips on
how keep your motivation up in How to Get Out of a Motivational Slump and 25 Simple Ways to Motivate Yourself.
One
reason Gandhi was so successful with his method of non-violence was
because he and his followers were so persistent. They just didn’t give
up.
Success
or victory will seldom come as quickly as you would have liked it to. I
think one of the reasons people don’t get what they want is simply
because they give up too soon. The time they think an achievement will
require isn’t the same amount of time it usually takes to achieve that
goal. This faulty belief partly comes from the world we live in. A world
full of magic pill solutions where advertising continually promises us
that we can lose a lot of weight or earn a ton of money in just 30 days.
You can read more about this in One Big Mistake a Whole Lot of People Make.
Finally,
one useful tip to keep your persistence going is to listen to Gandhi’s
third quote in this article and keep a sense of humor. It can lighten
things up at the toughest of times.
8. See the good in people and help them.
“I look only to the good qualities of men. Not being faultless myself, I won’t presume to probe into the faults of others.”
“Man becomes great exactly in the degree in which he works for the welfare of his fellow-men.”
“I suppose leadership at one time meant muscles; but today it means getting along with people.”
There
is pretty much always something good in people. And things that may not
be so good. But you can choose what things to focus on. And if you want
improvement then focusing on the good in people is a useful choice. It
also makes life easier for you as your world and relationships become
more pleasant and positive.
And
when you see the good in people it becomes easier to motivate yourself
to be of service to them. By being of service to other people, by giving
them value you not only make their lives better. Over time you tend to
get what you give. And the people you help may feel more inclined to
help other people. And so you, together, create an upward spiral of
positive change that grows and becomes stronger.
By
strengthening your social skills you can become a more influential
person and make this upward spiral even stronger. A few articles that
may provide you with useful advice in that department are Do You Make These 10 Mistakes in a Conversation? and Dale Carnegie’s Top 10 Tips for Improving Your Social Skills. Or you can just move on to the next tip.
9. Be congruent, be authentic, be your true self.
“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
“Always
aim at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Always aim at
purifying your thoughts and everything will be well.”
I
think that one of the best tips for improving your social skills is to
behave in a congruent manner and communicate in an authentic way. People
seem to really like authentic communication. And there is much inner
enjoyment to be found when your thoughts, words and actions are aligned.
You feel powerful and good about yourself.
When
words and thoughts are aligned then that shows through in your
communication. Because now you have your voice tonality and body
language – some say they are over 90 percent of communication – in
alignment with your words.
With
these channels in alignment people tend to really listen to what you’re
saying. You are communicating without incongruency, mixed messages or
perhaps a sort of phoniness.
Also,
if your actions aren’t in alignment with what you’re communicating then
you start to hurt your own belief in what you can do. And other
people’s belief in you too.
10. Continue to grow and evolve.
”Constant
development is the law of life, and a man who always tries to maintain
his dogmas in order to appear consistent drives himself into a false
position.”
You
can pretty much always improve your skills, habits or re-evaluate your
evaluations. You can gain deeper understanding of yourself and the
world.
Sure,
you may look inconsistent or like you don’t know what you are doing
from time to time. You may have trouble to act congruently or to
communicate authentically. But if you don’t then you will, as Gandhi
says, drive yourself into a false position. A place where you try to
uphold or cling to your old views to appear consistent while you realise
within that something is wrong. It’s not a fun place to be. To choose
to grow and evolve is a happier and more useful path to take.
Source: http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2008/05/09/gandhis-top-10-fundamentals-for-changing-the-world/
Source: http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2008/05/09/gandhis-top-10-fundamentals-for-changing-the-world/